After a really insightful conversation with a friend today, I finally admitted to myself that I am burning my candle at both ends with the middle becoming imminent.
I tend to try to do everything and be everything to everyone and that leaves little time to be what I need to myself. I’ve grown so much, yet something inside of me still feels the need to prove myself. To who? I’m not sure if it’s to someone else or if it’s to me. Someone tells me it can’t be done and I’ll prove them wrong, someone tells me I can’t do something and again, I’ll prove them wrong. But at what expense does that come?
I’ve been juggling too many balls lately. Trying to not let anyone down, trying to be the best mom, the best employee, the best friend, the best editor, writer, life coach and the list goes on and on. This reminds me of a quote that resonates with me: “I can do ANYTHING, but I can’t do EVERYTHING.”
A good friend and mentor posted something on her Facebook page My Brilliant Transformation about doing a bowl burning ceremony on New Year’s Eve. The meaning behind this ceremony has been rolling around in my head all evening and I am going to do it. I often talk about letting go of what doesn’t serve me, yet it’s so easy to hang on to things. I hang on to things because I don’t want to look like a failure like I can’t handle it. I don’t want to be looked upon as giving up on something I’ve started. Yet, hanging onto certain things prevents me from growth. When I hang onto the things that are draining me and dimming my light, I don’t have room to let the things that will fill me and make my light shine brightly again.
Letting go doesn’t equal failure or not being good enough. Letting go means that I know I can’t continue with things that suck my energy, the things that have run their course. Letting go doesn’t always mean completely cutting the cord, sometimes it means just stepping back and knowing how much I can handle. Knowing my worth and standing tall in my truth.
When I cling to things that are no longer meant for me in certain ways, I prevent the things that are meant for me to come into my life. It prevents me from continuing to grow and learn. And that is something I cannot let happen. I won’t let my light be burnt out because the candle has burned completely up. Snuffing out one end so that the other can flare up and catch fire again is a beautiful thing.
As I write this, I am still in my work clothes and winter coat. I haven’t taken the time to even eat supper. That, my friends, isn’t living. It’s being busy and being busy without living doesn’t serve a purpose.
Day 9 Challenge: What are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Are you burning the candle at both ends? What can you release so that your light can shine brighter and your shoulders no longer feel the weight of unneeded thoughts or duties? Let something go, feel your cup fill back up and let your shoulders relax. This is self-care my friends, and we all owe it to ourselves to care for ourselves first.