Oh, how I love my warm, safe comfort zone. It’s familiar and I know what to expect from it. Did I mention, it’s also BORING as hell?!
Do you ever stop and take inventory of your life? I mean really stop and look at where you are? I’ve been doing a little bit of that lately, after starting once again, to step outside of my comfort zone. A comfort zone is safe, but we don’t grow there. If we always stay the same, nothing changes and if nothing changes…well…NOTHING CHANGES. We can’t expect to sit back and not be in the driver’s seat of our lives. If we aren’t happy with our current situation- WE have the power to change it.
Each of us has a different definition of happiness. If you stop and let yourself feel-what emotion is the first that comes up? For me, lately, it’s been a feeling of blah. Like- is this it? Is this what my life is going to be and more importantly, am I HAPPY with the way it is? My best friend likened it to being on auto-pilot. Going through the motions. You know, when you drive the same route home every day, only to get home and not even remember driving?
I think we let ourselves get tunnel vision sometimes. We focus on something and that takes our entire attention so that everything else around us is a blur. I don’t think life has to be like that. Life is meant to be lived, not just survived. The one thing we cannot get back is TIME. Maybe it’s time to take inventory of what eats up our time and if it’s sucking the life out of us or filling us up.
Sometimes we are so busy saying YES to everyone else, we forget about saying YES to ourselves. The word NO is a complete sentence- it doesn’t require an explanation. If you’re anything like me, you’re an explainer. I come from a very long line of people who feel we have to explain or justify our actions. Saying no to someone or something isn’t a bad thing and you don’t need to explain yourself. (Note to self- re-read that sentence).
If I stop and take inventory of my current situation, my life right now, I should be smiling ear to ear, so why aren’t I? Maybe because I feel guilty for letting myself be happy? Maybe it’s because my life doesn’t look the way it should to others and as a lifelong people pleaser, I’ve always shrunk myself to let others shine.
The thing is, we are all put here to live our best lives. We are meant to be happy. Happiness is different for everyone. As Rachel Hollis always says- “What Other People Think of You, is None of Your Business.” You do you and I’ll do me.
Take a minute and think about where you are in your life, what is the first emotion that comes up? If you don’t like it-change it. You have the power to make the change.